• one-to-one cuddling, a primer

    by  • September 3, 2016

    I made a post on Facebook, and then another one, about cuddling.  Someone asked if there was a list of guidelines.  This is the result. So you’ve decided you want to try this platonic cuddling thing. You know there’s an epidemic of skin hunger. You might even be part of it. Or you might...

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    groundhog resistant gardening

    by  • June 5, 2016

    I’ve had a dilemma for several years now. I love growing food.  I love the magic of start-with-nothing, end-with-nourishment.  I love growing green things, I love having my hands and feet in the dirt.  I do not wear gardening gloves, and I don’t at all mind having grit on my fingers. There are two...

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    practical drapes

    by  • February 28, 2016

    …every few months the obsession with draped clothing surfaces.  This time it was because I was thinking that choli blouses just don’t make sense. In what universe do you take a super simple garment (six yards of unstitched fabric at the width of the loom) and make it complicated by adding a stitched skirt and...

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    tip of the iceberg

    by  • January 22, 2016

    My Facebook and Twitter feeds often offer more interesting news than the newspaper ever did.  Today, this article crossed my path, about sexual assault in the music industry: http://www.billboard.com/biz/articles/6851561/amber-coffman-speaks-in-depth-about-heathcliff-berru-i-hope-this-is-a-big-wake Here’s my response. So the problem isn’t just that this happened once, although even once is a major problem. The problem is that this is...

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    cut on the pull stroke

    by  • October 27, 2015

    Recently, I was waxing poetic about handsaws.  Specifically, about my ryoba, a Japanese handsaw that suits my woodworking needs and style to a T. Like most Japanese hand tools, it’s designed to make good use of your body weight. It cuts on the pull stroke. By contrast, most Western saws cut on the push stroke....

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    unbiasing

    by  • September 22, 2015

    I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the ways in which the liberal communities I’m attached to carry bias.  Race, class, sure, but also other kinds of bias.  This is about our bias against business and money.  It was originally a Facebook post, but it got long and I think it needs to be...

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    waking early

    by  • September 22, 2015

    A little humor, with apologies to Mary Oliver: Why I Wake Early (my life is not a walk in the woods) Hello, cat in my face Hello you who make the morning And the evening and all the days and nights About you And ow! Your claw, and the nodding off in the afternoon...

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    pleasure is not comfortable

    by  • September 15, 2015

    A little bit ago I posted to facebook: “Pleasure is not always comfortable.” And I got two comments back: “Explain?” So now that I have some time… sometimes, pleasure is comfortable. The stress melts away and your nervous system takes off for the beach with a little umbrella. The sympathetic responses calm down. You...

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    a different kind of enoughness

    by  • September 1, 2015

    (the kind of enoughness I’m contrasting with here was originated by Jennifer Louden http://jenniferlouden.com/art-of-building-your-truer-life/) I have often threatened to get a button that says, “This is what a minister looks like.”  People don’t expect me to be a minister.  More, they expect me NOT to be a minister.  Whatever the picture of “minister” in their...

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    draped clothing: resources

    by  • July 11, 2015

    Saris: the best resource for draping saris is Chantal Boulanger’s book.  But if you want a quick-and-dirty primer on the most common draping style (nivi) and a few bonus options, go to sarisafari.com.  She also imports and sells some beautiful saris, if you don’t live near an Indian district. YouTube has some excellent additional...

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    draped clothing: the bra

    by  • July 11, 2015

    So I’ve been on about draped clothing before.  Draped clothing: when you get dressed from a (usually rectangle) of fabric, with no cutting or sewing.  Saris are draped, dhotis are draped, kangas are draped, so are sarongs/lungis and a host of other garments around the world. Some people think that draped clothing is likely...

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    intensive: living into it

    by  • July 9, 2015

    So back in February, I made a post to Facebook that became a series of posts that became a private group, about being intense. Being an intensive, I called it. And as intensives are wont to do, I went hell-for-leather for a while, all-in, thinking, writing, totally absorbed.  (It’s part of what we do.)...

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