• don’t give up

    by  • May 19, 2015 • Uncategorized

    I shared this on my Facebook feed recently; it’s an article about how someone realized she was criticizing everything her partner did, in a way that was neither helpful nor respectful, and was probably damaging.

    It’s Just Hamburger Meat

    And then I was talking with my therapist, who said, “Don’t you work with couples?”

    And I said, sure, I work with people in relationships, and no matter what the total configuration of the relationship, people usually notice conflict in pairs.  And she said, “do you talk about it?” And I said, “not much,” because I don’t.  She wanted to know why.

    Partly, that’s because not everyone’s a great fit for my style.

    Partly, that’s because I’ve had my share of both successes and failures in relationships, and I wish I had more successes and fewer failures.

    On the other hand, I’ve had plenty of time and help in the postmortem, and damn have I got tools.

    Lots of tools.

    So anyway, at the encouragement of said therapist, and clients ranging from “spice up my marriage” to “how do we transition to polyamory gracefully”, I give you my first video about relationships.  I did it, kid you not, with my phone clipped to a maple sapling in my yard, and it cuts out at the end…but #doitanyway.  Want to work with me?  Head over to leelasinha.com or drop me an email.  Rates are $150/hour and typically you’ll work with me for 4-12 hours total in a few long (2-4 hour) sessions before you’re done.

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