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    pleasure is not comfortable

    by  • September 15, 2015 • Uncategorized

    A little bit ago I posted to facebook: “Pleasure is not always comfortable.” And I got two comments back: “Explain?” So now that I have some time… sometimes, pleasure is comfortable. The stress melts away and your nervous system takes off for the beach with a little umbrella. The sympathetic responses calm down. You...

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    a different kind of enoughness

    by  • September 1, 2015 • Uncategorized

    (the kind of enoughness I’m contrasting with here was originated by Jennifer Louden http://jenniferlouden.com/art-of-building-your-truer-life/) I have often threatened to get a button that says, “This is what a minister looks like.”  People don’t expect me to be a minister.  More, they expect me NOT to be a minister.  Whatever the picture of “minister” in their...

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    draped clothing: resources

    by  • July 11, 2015 • draped clothing

    Saris: the best resource for draping saris is Chantal Boulanger’s book.  But if you want a quick-and-dirty primer on the most common draping style (nivi) and a few bonus options, go to sarisafari.com.  She also imports and sells some beautiful saris, if you don’t live near an Indian district. YouTube has some excellent additional...

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    draped clothing: the bra

    by  • July 11, 2015 • draped clothing

    So I’ve been on about draped clothing before.  Draped clothing: when you get dressed from a (usually rectangle) of fabric, with no cutting or sewing.  Saris are draped, dhotis are draped, kangas are draped, so are sarongs/lungis and a host of other garments around the world. Some people think that draped clothing is likely...

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    intensive: living into it

    by  • July 9, 2015 • intensity, Uncategorized

    So back in February, I made a post to Facebook that became a series of posts that became a private group, about being intense. Being an intensive, I called it. And as intensives are wont to do, I went hell-for-leather for a while, all-in, thinking, writing, totally absorbed.  (It’s part of what we do.)...

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    media matters

    by  • July 6, 2015 • Uncategorized

    Ever since Charleston, I’ve been watching myself. I’m so far from perfect you can’t even see it from my breakfast table, but I’ve been asking the questions, over and over: where am I actively, outspokenly, effectively, daily anti-racist?  Where am I not?  How can I do better? Certainly, I’ve done better on Facebook.  I...

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    the heart of the matter

    by  • June 22, 2015 • Uncategorized

    Charleston. Holy shit Charleston. I wrote a piece that isn’t ready for the public eye, and may never be.  Because holy shit. And now I’m writing this, because the debate has devolved in many quarters into the meta debate: what is this really about anyway?  Is it race or guns or the history of...

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    love the world

    by  • May 25, 2015 • Uncategorized

    My alarm goes off at 9:30 every morning. It’s not there to get me out of bed (my body pretty reliably does that). It’s not there to tell me I’m late (every day is different). It’s there to tell me to love the world. I have an Android phone.  It lets me change things,...

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    enough special butterflies

    by  • May 20, 2015 • Uncategorized

    this is a loving ass-kicking for my fellow coaches.  if you’re not a coach, you’re welcome to read along Dear Beloved Coaching Colleagues, We have a problem.  Many of us need more clients.  But we’re going about it ALL WRONG. We like to think of ourselves as special, we coaches.  After all, we didn’t...

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