• About Leela

    get found, kid!

    by  • November 3, 2012 • Uncategorized

    It was approximately a million years ago when I first picked up All I Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten. Years later I would discover that it had been written by a UU minister (Robert Fulghum), that it had started as a newsletter column in a kid’s backpack, that there were other books. But...

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    why do we hide?

    by  • November 2, 2012 • Uncategorized

    There are lots of reasons why we hide parts of ourselves.  Some of them are old patterns, some are new, some still serve us, some…don’t. Most of the time it boils down to fear. We’re afraid of something: afraid of rejection, afraid of inadequacy, afraid of ridicule, afraid of being hurt when we expose...

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    and what am I hiding?

    by  • November 1, 2012 • Uncategorized

    Yesterday, I invited you to consider what you were hiding.  Just find out what it might be, not change it or do anything about it. Today…well, I looked into it, too.  What am I hiding?  Big stuff?  Little stuff?  Medium sized stuff? More stuff than I realized, I’ll tell you that.  I found some...

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    so what are you hiding?

    by  • October 31, 2012 • Uncategorized

    You’ve got to be yourself.  There’s struggle in that, sometimes, if people are not used to it, but past the struggle is miles and miles of white-sandy-beach ease.  Why? Because pretending takes so damn much energy. It’s lying, on a long-term, semi-permanent basis.  And remembering a lie and all the things that come out...

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    loyal to what, again?

    by  • October 30, 2012 • Uncategorized

    You have to be yourself first. I stumbled across Sarah Robinson’s Fierce Loyalty website today, and read a few of the essays before it hit me: in order for people to be fiercely loyal to you (or your brand or your business or your pet iguana) they have to know what they are being...

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    Body of Water

    by  • June 9, 2012 • Uncategorized

    I park next to the ocean, and by “next to” I mean, “beside the ten foot stack of lobster traps.”  My car gets a better view than my office does, but that means that every morning and every evening that I go to the office I get a tangy-salty-lungful of reminders that there is...

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    by  • January 6, 2012 • Uncategorized

    Several years ago, I discovered (via Christine Kane) that there were alternatives to making resolutions.  This was good, because I have a terrible track record with resolutions. I’m rules-resistant. If you ask me to do something unpleasant I am instantly a thousand-million times less likely to do it than if you had just left...

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    no urgency.

    by  • November 26, 2011 • Uncategorized

    My favorite used car salesman is barely a salesman at all. His name…well, let’s call him M.  He works for a local dealership.  And he spends a lot of time talking, a lot of time listening, and a lot of time smiling. He has never pushed me into a purchase. I have never felt...

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    good food

    by  • October 10, 2011 • Uncategorized

    I tweeted about my dinner plans before I went grocery shopping.  @sexyethics wanted the recipe.  But first I had to make it up. So here it is, as promised, as I did it–my Dadi would be proud: Salmon in thai curry squash soup Make yourself some soup: take a big soup pot, add butter, heat...

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    the ups and the downs

    by  • October 9, 2011 • Uncategorized

    This is a post about a little thing that’s a big thing. I need to start by saying this: I’m not a therapist.  I’m not a doctor.  If you need a therapist or a doctor, I am in no way meaning to contravene the advice and guidance you get from them or from other...

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