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    unbiasing

    by  • September 22, 2015 • Uncategorized

    I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the ways in which the liberal communities I’m attached to carry bias.  Race, class, sure, but also other kinds of bias.  This is about our bias against business and money.  It was originally a Facebook post, but it got long and I think it needs to be...

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    waking early

    by  • September 22, 2015 • Uncategorized

    A little humor, with apologies to Mary Oliver: Why I Wake Early (my life is not a walk in the woods) Hello, cat in my face Hello you who make the morning And the evening and all the days and nights About you And ow! Your claw, and the nodding off in the afternoon...

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    pleasure is not comfortable

    by  • September 15, 2015 • Uncategorized

    A little bit ago I posted to facebook: “Pleasure is not always comfortable.” And I got two comments back: “Explain?” So now that I have some time… sometimes, pleasure is comfortable. The stress melts away and your nervous system takes off for the beach with a little umbrella. The sympathetic responses calm down. You...

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    a different kind of enoughness

    by  • September 1, 2015 • Uncategorized

    (the kind of enoughness I’m contrasting with here was originated by Jennifer Louden http://jenniferlouden.com/art-of-building-your-truer-life/) I have often threatened to get a button that says, “This is what a minister looks like.”  People don’t expect me to be a minister.  More, they expect me NOT to be a minister.  Whatever the picture of “minister” in their...

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    intensive: living into it

    by  • July 9, 2015 • intensity, Uncategorized

    So back in February, I made a post to Facebook that became a series of posts that became a private group, about being intense. Being an intensive, I called it. And as intensives are wont to do, I went hell-for-leather for a while, all-in, thinking, writing, totally absorbed.  (It’s part of what we do.)...

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    media matters

    by  • July 6, 2015 • Uncategorized

    Ever since Charleston, I’ve been watching myself. I’m so far from perfect you can’t even see it from my breakfast table, but I’ve been asking the questions, over and over: where am I actively, outspokenly, effectively, daily anti-racist?  Where am I not?  How can I do better? Certainly, I’ve done better on Facebook.  I...

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    the heart of the matter

    by  • June 22, 2015 • Uncategorized

    Charleston. Holy shit Charleston. I wrote a piece that isn’t ready for the public eye, and may never be.  Because holy shit. And now I’m writing this, because the debate has devolved in many quarters into the meta debate: what is this really about anyway?  Is it race or guns or the history of...

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    love the world

    by  • May 25, 2015 • Uncategorized

    My alarm goes off at 9:30 every morning. It’s not there to get me out of bed (my body pretty reliably does that). It’s not there to tell me I’m late (every day is different). It’s there to tell me to love the world. I have an Android phone.  It lets me change things,...

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    enough special butterflies

    by  • May 20, 2015 • Uncategorized

    this is a loving ass-kicking for my fellow coaches.  if you’re not a coach, you’re welcome to read along Dear Beloved Coaching Colleagues, We have a problem.  Many of us need more clients.  But we’re going about it ALL WRONG. We like to think of ourselves as special, we coaches.  After all, we didn’t...

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