• draped clothing: resources

    by  • July 11, 2015

    Saris: the best resource for draping saris is Chantal Boulanger’s book.  But if you want a quick-and-dirty primer on the most common draping style (nivi) and a few bonus options, go to sarisafari.com.  She also imports and sells some beautiful saris, if you don’t live near an Indian district. YouTube has some excellent additional...

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    draped clothing: the bra

    by  • July 11, 2015

    So I’ve been on about draped clothing before.  Draped clothing: when you get dressed from a (usually rectangle) of fabric, with no cutting or sewing.  Saris are draped, dhotis are draped, kangas are draped, so are sarongs/lungis and a host of other garments around the world. Some people think that draped clothing is likely...

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    intensive: living into it

    by  • July 9, 2015

    So back in February, I made a post to Facebook that became a series of posts that became a private group, about being intense. Being an intensive, I called it. And as intensives are wont to do, I went hell-for-leather for a while, all-in, thinking, writing, totally absorbed.  (It’s part of what we do.)...

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    media matters

    by  • July 6, 2015

    Ever since Charleston, I’ve been watching myself. I’m so far from perfect you can’t even see it from my breakfast table, but I’ve been asking the questions, over and over: where am I actively, outspokenly, effectively, daily anti-racist?  Where am I not?  How can I do better? Certainly, I’ve done better on Facebook.  I...

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    the heart of the matter

    by  • June 22, 2015

    Charleston. Holy shit Charleston. I wrote a piece that isn’t ready for the public eye, and may never be.  Because holy shit. And now I’m writing this, because the debate has devolved in many quarters into the meta debate: what is this really about anyway?  Is it race or guns or the history of...

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    not sure yet

    by  • June 21, 2015

    I wrote a piece about Charleston, about responding to Charleston.  But I’m not sure where it belongs or if it’s meant to be public.

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    love the world

    by  • May 25, 2015

    My alarm goes off at 9:30 every morning. It’s not there to get me out of bed (my body pretty reliably does that). It’s not there to tell me I’m late (every day is different). It’s there to tell me to love the world. I have an Android phone.  It lets me change things,...

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    enough special butterflies

    by  • May 20, 2015

    this is a loving ass-kicking for my fellow coaches.  if you’re not a coach, you’re welcome to read along Dear Beloved Coaching Colleagues, We have a problem.  Many of us need more clients.  But we’re going about it ALL WRONG. We like to think of ourselves as special, we coaches.  After all, we didn’t...

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    don’t give up

    by  • May 19, 2015

    I shared this on my Facebook feed recently; it’s an article about how someone realized she was criticizing everything her partner did, in a way that was neither helpful nor respectful, and was probably damaging.

    It’s Just Hamburger Meat

    And then I was talking with my therapist, who said, “Don’t you work with couples?”

    And I said, sure, I work with people in relationships, and no matter what the total configuration of the relationship, people usually notice conflict in pairs.  And she said, “do you talk about it?” And I said, “not much,” because I don’t.  She wanted to know why.

    Partly, that’s because not everyone’s a great fit for my style.

    Partly, that’s because I’ve had my share of both successes and failures in relationships, and I wish I had more successes and fewer failures.

    On the other hand, I’ve had plenty of time and help in the postmortem, and damn have I got tools.

    Lots of tools.

    So anyway, at the encouragement of said therapist, and clients ranging from “spice up my marriage” to “how do we transition to polyamory gracefully”, I give you my first video about relationships.  I did it, kid you not, with my phone clipped to a maple sapling in my yard, and it cuts out at the end…but #doitanyway.  Want to work with me?  Head over to leelasinha.com or drop me an email.  Rates are $150/hour and typically you’ll work with me for 4-12 hours total in a few long (2-4 hour) sessions before you’re done.

    what happens when you crack open?

    by  • April 29, 2015

    I’ve been thinking, a lot, about the consequences of engagement.  (And this piece is definitely in dialogue with Christine Claire Reed over at christineclairereed.com and with Briana Saussy over at brianasaussy.com.  They are both brilliant.) Which is to say, what happens when you really truly get both feet into a thing and do it like there’s...

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