• it’s not about self-esteem

    by  • September 1, 2014

    Usually, I post here about pleasure, because…well, because yummy and awesome and so useful.  Because pleasure makes us clear and whole; because pleasure gives us direction; because pleasure makes the difference between drudgery and service, between weariness and joy. BUT. There’s more to life, and this has been bugging me for a while. I...

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    Guest Post! Go Back to What You Are: A Body of Wonder

    by  • July 16, 2014

    Today’s guest post is by the lovely Heather Rees, a career change coach with a strong sense of the value of presence in the body.  Please welcome her! *** Go Back to What You Are: a Body Of Wonder Your body is not gross, ugly, misaligned or any manner of wrong. It is not...

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    beauty matters (I am an athlete)

    by  • June 27, 2014

    Just took a nap on the beach. That makes two hours today on the beach, one lying down.  Here’s why that’s important: outdoors is not the enemy. It is awesome. Some days it is more nap-worthy than others but it is not a bad place to be. If, like me, you have made it...

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    on swimming (I am an athlete)

    by  • June 25, 2014

    I went swimming today. Which might be no big deal. Except… many things. Let’s start with the complicated: I had drowning dreams as a child.  I used to wake up choking, mouth clamped shut. And when the swimming teacher threw me in the pool to “teach” me to swim, I held my breath and...

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    Moving Comfort Endurance dress: review

    by  • June 8, 2014

    Let’s start here: Moving Comfort makes INCREDIBLE sports bras.  So when I saw that they were making dresses for being active in, I was thrilled.  YAY, I thought.  The bra plus a skirt! Not so fast. My dress is an XL in black, and runs true to size.  Empire-waisted, with obvious seams, it is...

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    on gender and dresses

    by  • June 8, 2014

    I am an athlete. Athletes, as I am discovering, come in ALL shapes and sizes and other things. Do not let your brain determine who is an athlete and who is not.  It will be wrong. Now generally I consider myself female-gender nonconforming.  What does this mean?  It’s complicated, but for the sake of...

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    pain is information

    by  • May 27, 2014

    I went running this morning.  Just a short run, on the beach.  it’s 50 degrees and windy, and this is my first .run. this season, and my first barefoot run. You saw my clothing rant–today’s solution: running dress from Mountain Hardwear (size L) (shoutout to them for also having a men’s kilt!) with a...

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    what not to wear…to work out

    by  • May 19, 2014

    I wish someone would pay attention. Anyone. Nike, Mountain Hardwear, Patagonia, EMS, REI, MEC, Danskin, Title 9, Junonia, I don’t care. We’ll leave Lululemon out of this for obvious reasons. There’s a big problem in the athleticwear world, and I’ve just about had it. If you are apple-shaped (waist bigger than hips) and over,...

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    anyone can dance

    by  • May 18, 2014

    I waited to pee for 45 minutes this morning. I was too busy dancing to stop. This is nothing short of a miracle. ** When I was…oh That Age, about sixth grade, I discovered that I couldn’t dance. This was a wee bit of a surprise, seeing as how I’d been contra dancing since...

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    you are what you claim

    by  • May 16, 2014

    Years ago I knew a kid. He was seven. He was visiting me in the woods of Maine. And he arrived, unpacked his portable Nintendo, and announced with great confidence, “I’m more of an indoor-type person.” Indeed he was. He spent the week with his Nintendo, camped out in the middle of my living...

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