• what are you selling?

    by  • November 8, 2012

    I’m in a coffeeshop, because there’s construction at home.  No complaint about the insulation going into the basement, though.  None at all. So I’m here, in this incredibly comfy leather chair, surrounded by people softened by that first snowfall of winter.  There are lots of people like me, laptops in hand, looking busy.  There...

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    25 percent and 5 people

    by  • November 6, 2012

    I want a different culture than the one we live in right now.  I want a culture with more body joy and less body shame, more yeses and hows and fewer no’s and we-can’ts. If I could have my way with a magic wand, we would live in a gift economy and it would...

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    touch matters

    by  • November 5, 2012

    This morning I ran across an article on The Snugglery, a snuggling service in upstate New York.  They provide nonsexual cuddles (usually spooning) for $60/hour.  Pajamas stay on, other people are in the house but not in the room, confidentiality is assured. It’s not the first time I’ve heard of professional snuggling, but sometimes...

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    On Being Wild

    by  • November 4, 2012

    We are drawn to the wildness. When hurricane Sandy came to the Maine coast I had an almost irresistable urge to go look at the ocean–in fact I wanted to go down at high tide but I did not dare. I know how low the dunes are and I know how big the oceans...

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    get found, kid!

    by  • November 3, 2012

    It was approximately a million years ago when I first picked up All I Need To Know I Learned In Kindergarten. Years later I would discover that it had been written by a UU minister (Robert Fulghum), that it had started as a newsletter column in a kid’s backpack, that there were other books. But...

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    why do we hide?

    by  • November 2, 2012

    There are lots of reasons why we hide parts of ourselves.  Some of them are old patterns, some are new, some still serve us, some…don’t. Most of the time it boils down to fear. We’re afraid of something: afraid of rejection, afraid of inadequacy, afraid of ridicule, afraid of being hurt when we expose...

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    and what am I hiding?

    by  • November 1, 2012

    Yesterday, I invited you to consider what you were hiding.  Just find out what it might be, not change it or do anything about it. Today…well, I looked into it, too.  What am I hiding?  Big stuff?  Little stuff?  Medium sized stuff? More stuff than I realized, I’ll tell you that.  I found some...

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    so what are you hiding?

    by  • October 31, 2012

    You’ve got to be yourself.  There’s struggle in that, sometimes, if people are not used to it, but past the struggle is miles and miles of white-sandy-beach ease.  Why? Because pretending takes so damn much energy. It’s lying, on a long-term, semi-permanent basis.  And remembering a lie and all the things that come out...

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    loyal to what, again?

    by  • October 30, 2012

    You have to be yourself first. I stumbled across Sarah Robinson’s Fierce Loyalty website today, and read a few of the essays before it hit me: in order for people to be fiercely loyal to you (or your brand or your business or your pet iguana) they have to know what they are being...

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    Body of Water

    by  • June 9, 2012

    I park next to the ocean, and by “next to” I mean, “beside the ten foot stack of lobster traps.”  My car gets a better view than my office does, but that means that every morning and every evening that I go to the office I get a tangy-salty-lungful of reminders that there is...

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