• so what are you hiding?

    by  • October 31, 2012

    You’ve got to be yourself.  There’s struggle in that, sometimes, if people are not used to it, but past the struggle is miles and miles of white-sandy-beach ease.  Why? Because pretending takes so damn much energy. It’s lying, on a long-term, semi-permanent basis.  And remembering a lie and all the things that come out...

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    loyal to what, again?

    by  • October 30, 2012

    You have to be yourself first. I stumbled across Sarah Robinson’s Fierce Loyalty website today, and read a few of the essays before it hit me: in order for people to be fiercely loyal to you (or your brand or your business or your pet iguana) they have to know what they are being...

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    Body of Water

    by  • June 9, 2012

    I park next to the ocean, and by “next to” I mean, “beside the ten foot stack of lobster traps.”  My car gets a better view than my office does, but that means that every morning and every evening that I go to the office I get a tangy-salty-lungful of reminders that there is...

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    2012

    by  • January 6, 2012

    Several years ago, I discovered (via Christine Kane) that there were alternatives to making resolutions.  This was good, because I have a terrible track record with resolutions. I’m rules-resistant. If you ask me to do something unpleasant I am instantly a thousand-million times less likely to do it than if you had just left...

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    no urgency.

    by  • November 26, 2011

    My favorite used car salesman is barely a salesman at all. His name…well, let’s call him M.  He works for a local dealership.  And he spends a lot of time talking, a lot of time listening, and a lot of time smiling. He has never pushed me into a purchase. I have never felt...

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    good food

    by  • October 10, 2011

    I tweeted about my dinner plans before I went grocery shopping.  @sexyethics wanted the recipe.  But first I had to make it up. So here it is, as promised, as I did it–my Dadi would be proud: Salmon in thai curry squash soup Make yourself some soup: take a big soup pot, add butter, heat...

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    the ups and the downs

    by  • October 9, 2011

    This is a post about a little thing that’s a big thing. I need to start by saying this: I’m not a therapist.  I’m not a doctor.  If you need a therapist or a doctor, I am in no way meaning to contravene the advice and guidance you get from them or from other...

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    same ship, different party

    by  • September 21, 2011

    Have you ever been working on a project and something just won’t click?  You wrestle and struggle and beat your head against it and it comes out okay, and everyone says it’s fine, but it really hasn’t gelled yet? Yeah. And you know it’s in there and so you keep moving, keep going, keep...

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    don’t strain yourself, kid

    by  • September 12, 2011

    You get to do it the easy way. Really. I know it’s crazy, revolutionary, really even bizarre to think about it, but there is NOTHING wrong with doing things the easy way. For example: I write.  I write as part of my personal practice, and I write as part of my work.  I write...

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    move like you love it

    by  • September 6, 2011

    Motion should feel good. I think we forget. I know I forget. It’s complicated, after all.  Most people I know do workouts.  Do you ever do a playout?  The closest we get is sports: What are you doing for your workout today? Oh, I’m going to play a game of tennis. I’ve got a...

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